If you love them, let them go.

I came to these realisations after a recent heartbreaking experience of mine that further solidified what genuine Love means to me.

What is Love without freedom? What is Love with any sense of “cage” attached to it? Is that really Love? I believe genuine Love genuinely Loves the other and genuinely wants to see them become the very best version of themselves, without a sense of attachment to the seductive comfort of it all.

I believe genuine Love is present enough to be able to sense whether or not you both could genuinely be growing more in different pathways of life right now.

I believe genuine Love can make the decision to “let them go”, even though a whole chorus of emotions inside of us doesn’t want to. Genuine Love can make those hard decisions, because we genuinely Love. Genuine Love isn’t a transaction, I believe that Genuine Love will do whatever it can to build the platform upon which the beloved can feel most alive, even if it brings the lover themselves sadness.

“Attachments says ‘I love you so I need you to make me happy’ and squeezes very tightly. Whereas genuine Love says ‘I love you so I just want your happiness, if that’s with me, great, but if it’s not, I just want your happiness’ and cradles very gently, allowing things to flow.” - Tenzin Palmo Jetsunma

For not much can kill a Love of any sort quicker than a sense of cage. That feeling that you are having your full personal expression hindered can and usually does lead to a subtle form of depression because deep down, consciously or subconsciously, you know you could be more. And that, my friend, is what I believe to be the opposite of what real Love is. Real Love awakens, attachment is restrictive and can cause resistance to the natural flow of growth that genuine Love holds the space for.

If you do sense this in your relationship, just know that that’s okay. You did not fail. You are ENOUGH and you both are worthy of swimming and dancing in the river of life, not simply floating downstream. At this point in time, all this realisation means is that to feel like you both are living this life and not simply existing, you may need to be on your own for a while. Maybe for a long time, maybe not. To be free and remember deeply who you are and what’s important to you. Just know, that the love you share is still there and strong, you both just need this time to re-figure out what you want and need in this life. 

If it’s meant to be, it will be. 

This is no way a recommendation. This is simply one of our many signposts to what we believe to be a more enlightened kind of Love. A healthier kind of Love. 

The R/evolution is Love // TRiL